The Sarccastik Conjugate
Wednesday, March 01, 2006
Need help fellow bloggers....
Okay...here was the situation...i'm painting a scenerio...Back in the early stages of marriage, I can't remember the exact time. We went to the mall, she stopped in a women's shoe store. I was chilling in the hall to sit down. Low and behold, I saw some ol' skool cutty i used to hit 'cross. I'm like damn it...how can you smooth this out "Ice cold"....we got to talking and I said let me introduce you to my wife ( i think we just got married). My wife had that "Who is this biatch" look on her. Ya'll i thought i was doing the safe thing. My wife introduced herself and everything, i'm like okay everything is alright....the ol'skool cutty kept hitting me on my shoulder...like this is an ol' pale type of hit on the shoulder....the 1st time, i was like okay whatever, the 2nd time...i'm like OKAYYYY!!...then she left. The misses was like, Why did you want me to meet her? ...why did some other chick behind her cosign....like "I don't know girl"....i'm like "Who the fuck iz you"...terrible grammer but fukk it...I was like I didn't want you to see some chick smiling and laughing in my face while you wasn't there....i'm like okay here it comes...she was like...if she (ol'skool cutty) hit me on my shoulder again, she was going to snap. I'm "Whew"...way to go "Ice Cold"...you did....all this is taking place in the shoe store...i'm like the only dude in there...so I got out of that deal...Now help me understand women....
What do I do when we are out and some more ol' kutty come out of nowhere..."Hey Sarccastik"....infamous characters....Spacey Seattle, Head Doctor, Ol'Kutty,6'9",No Teeth pleeze...i know crazy names huh?!!?? victims of the past...anyway....Women how would you react when you see an ol' flame of your man?
But now my attitude is like fukk it...."It is what is shawt!!!!"...Ice Cold
What do I do when we are out and some more ol' kutty come out of nowhere..."Hey Sarccastik"....infamous characters....Spacey Seattle, Head Doctor, Ol'Kutty,6'9",No Teeth pleeze...i know crazy names huh?!!?? victims of the past...anyway....Women how would you react when you see an ol' flame of your man?
But now my attitude is like fukk it...."It is what is shawt!!!!"...Ice Cold
posted by The Sarccastik Variable Why at 12:07 PM
23 Comments:
Complicated. Very. I'm not saying that we're RIGHT in being complicated.
BUT, as the first poster indicated;
Had you NOT said anything, it would have been ON and crackin.
Being that you SAID something, she was wondering WTF?
Count it all joy, my brotha, count it all joy. . .
i say, introduce, keep it brief, and get to steppin, cuz if i catch a peep at ya'll talking and we DON't get the intro, its gonna be a problem-i'd want to know why i couldn't know who that was and while i/you were in her face and not around the corner after we leave when you could be telling me that she was your dentist or something. it just eliminates a barrage of questions and made-up mind scenarios. u handled it right
Rofl @ this post and Hiari. It's one of this no win situations..lol. She is going to be pissed if you don't introduce and she is going to be pissed if you do..lol. Personally, I prefer the introduction but don't need it. I am sure your wife feels the same way, either way it's uncomfortable for both women.
MOve to someplace where nobody knows your name
Naw just joking....
Thats a tough one.....either way u are screwed....I don;t know..
damn if you do and damn if you don't...that's some shit right there
ditto to GQ
that has happened to me...what do men prefer? introduce or not?
It's awkward no matter what. Unless it was someone I'd met before or someone I heard of I don't expect the convo to be long. "hey what's up this is "me" my wife/GF, well we're off, nice to see you" and that's it.
I think u did the right thing. I've done the same. U had 2 b honest. U wern't trying 2 ekindle an ol flame
I know you're not getting the help you need. But there really is no way to answer. You did the right thing ... but if it were me and my man I would have gotten an attitude too. Why? Who knows. Probably because I don't want to be reminded that he had a life before he met me. I know, I know. Totally irrational. Just kiss and make up.
Hmmm this can be tricky cause ad the woman in your life we want to know who the chick is but we dont want to much info.... so keep it short ant sweet.
You did what was right. You have to introduce her. But you could have cut her short at that point with "Well it was nice seeing ya, take care".
All you can do is what you did, as a women I dont want to see no women that use to be with my man. Period! BUt if and when I should all I can do is be pleasnt and keep walking.
I ran into one of my old guys we where in a whole 'nother city and endded up parking right next to him, I did say anything he smiled and said Hi then I said Hi and kept walking Well about 15 mins later my man says "did you use to kick with him?" I just said Yes and that was the end of it, I guess that's the difference between men and women.
You did the right thing. That's all you could do. I can't explain why we do what we do. No matter how you slice, no woman wants to see another chic in her man's face. Now if you didn't introduce, oh lawdy...
It depends on how you introduced them. Were you smiling and excited to see this chick?
"oh by the way this is my wife"
or Were you more like:
"Hey what's up *blank look* good seeing you. You won't believe it, but I'm married now. Let me introduce you to the woman that changed my life...this is my wife....". You must introduce your wife and not vice versa.
You would never say Mr. President this is Keisha. You would say Keisha this is THE PRESIDENT. See there is a way to make your wife feel like you are showing her off as oppose to just doing shit as a formality. Not complicated at all.
that was the right move. ya girl gotta be tight enough in her confidence to handle it. bottom line...you married her. end of story.
now of course, this is harder to do than to say. LOL
i know i have a jealous streak, but i also know it's tied directly to how i feel about myself. i'll continue working on that, as that's the key to not snapping when an ex steps to the brotha i'm with.
I just think if you are honest you are okay but if you act suspcious and sneaky than she should be very mad. Women know you have a past and we married because you look good among many other things so we know somebody gonna look at you.
i wouldnt go outta my way to introduce the 2.. i think that if ur wife was near, then yeah, intro is neccessary.. but if ur on the other side of the store and you go find your wife for introductions.. that may make u look kinda suspect (MY OPINION) if the wife comes to you.. then def, intro is needed
You definitly did the right thing by introducing Wifey. She would have been even more mad otherwise. But, either way, she is going to have a little attitude about it.
My preference is...
Don't talk to her...brush her off. Or plain IGNORE her. Then later tell me that was your old jump off. So I recognize that chick next go round.
I don't wanna feel obligated to be cordial to your old nasty ass skanky dirty snatch from the past. She wasn't good enough for you to wifey up with...she's not good enough for me to be cordial to. Point Blank!
:-)
This is consequences of your past decisions. Man up and take your punishment.
YOU SAID:
My wife had that "Who is this biatch" look on her!!
I LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT.....no matter what you do,it will always be WRONG. LOL
I don't think it matters HOW you introduced your wife, only that you did. And unless there was some confusion about who you would leave the store with, I don't understand the attitude. I don't know a single woman who would want a man with no romantic past - what would you do with him? would he qualify? I think we need to relax a little (read: a LOT) ladies and cut these brothas some true slack.
It is always best to introduce and then give your wife the opportunity to engage or disengage an old flame.
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